Very few of us follow the same career as their mums and rarely one sees women working with their mother in the same profession or hobby.
Mums and Stories had the opportunity to be part of a storytelling form that is a solo still theatre tradition from Karnataka.
Uma Nagraj and Deepika Dorai, the mother–daughter duo perform at the Rasalok talk about working together to bring an art form for Bangaloreans.
“I am still following what my mother was doing” says
Uma Nagraj in a delicate feeble voice. Taking a particular scene and enacting it in the form of storytelling and enhancing it with dolls, lights, dramatization in miniature settings is an experience that is imparted by both the artists.
This year Uma Nagraj and Deepika are performing Tyagaraja draws a 5 stringed chariot and Hanuman courts willful captivity respectively.
Perfect for children over 7 years of age the art form is shared with others in Basavanagudi in Bimba Art hut without a fee. Needless to say at the end of the performance each and every participant young and adults are just delighted to have witnessed a magical experience.
When asked on a memory that each can think of their mother, Uma Nagraj says, “She gave everything to us children in terms of love, affection and this art form.”
Deepika says “The last 14 years we have been performing in parallel shows and the ability to connect with people and share the divine feeling is great.” Even though she doesn’t express much it is evident in Deepika’s smile that she is elated to have been able to offer the art which she has learnt from her mom.
“As a 60-year-old mum, I have a lot of experiences to share. When my kids were young and I was busy with my job and home, many a time I had thought, ‘when will they grow up and ease my work load and give me some good sleep?’. But today looking back, I feel those were the best days for me with my children.
I do not know their opinions or feelings in this regard. As far as I am concerned, those days were golden for me. The small little events in schools in which they participated, the pranks that they used to play, the entertaining baby talk, the words of wisdom that they uttered so easily at times, the experiences that they would share about their school, their friends and foes- everything was so interesting to us, though they may have bored others.
Now, I have all the time in the world, as my kids have settled down with their own families and they do not need my service any more. But I do not get sound sleep! I crave for their company.
My daughter is in the same city thankfully but my son is miles away in Canada. When I am in Bangalore, I miss him a lot and when I visit him in Canada, I miss my daughter and now her little one, cute little bundle of joy, very much. Time has changed too many things in my life. I wish the time had frozen when my kids were young! I yearn for times when all of us could once again live together – which is only a fantasy as of now!
Here is a picture where I am with my mom, my daughter and my grandson!”.
This is a post by a mum who has lived large part of her life in Iran and now Pooneh Tahami is based in India with her family.
She says, “Motherhood is just such a wonderful feeling. I remember when I was a young girl, once I asked my mom why she always eats after she has given me and my siblings.
She would just answer “You’ll know when you’ll be a mom yourself”
And she was so right, the very first time I held my daughter in my arms I felt like just loving her and protecting her. She most definitely became my whole world. Now I understand all those things what my mom did for us.
I feel the pain when she is in pain for any reason and must admit that I am at peace when she is happy.
Today I am a proud mother of two one daughter and a son. When someone asks me which one do you love the most I always feel it’s as if someone asks you do you love your right hand or the left hand. I love both of them equally and I do everything I can to see a smile on their faces. They make me complete and I always feel the word mother is world’s most meaningful word”.